Men and women are different. I know that’s politically incorrect which I guess is why I feel so good saying it. They are different in obvious ways, but they are also different in subtle ways. These differences make it difficult sometimes for the sexes to communicate. Women, listen up. Here are some hints in communicating with a man. I would give some hints about communicating with a woman but, as noted above, we are different and after 64 years of trying I haven’t really learned anything on that score.
Men really say what we mean. Women tend to speak in code and men, often to their detriment, just say what they mean. Don’t try to read too much into what we say. We tend to speak simply because we are simple.
Related to the above, we don’t really like to give details. It makes us angry when you pump for details. Listen some time to groups of men and groups of women talking. Men talk in sentences… sometimes one word sentences. They use a lot of eye rolls and facial expressions, not to emphasize what they are saying, but in place of having to say something.
Women talk in paragraphs. Sometimes multiple paragraphs. Girls, don’t be surprised when we turn off after the first couple of words. We aren’t capable of absorbing after a couple of words. So if you must speak in paragraphs, say the important words first.
We don’t operate with complex emotions. For example, when a woman would cry, we might just get angry. Society seems to think anger is a sin. They never saw Jesus cleaning out the money changers. We are told in scripture not to sin in our anger, but anger alone isn’t a sin. I guess neither is crying. So don’t expect too much in the emotions department. If you feel you just get anger, don’t get angry. (Can’t believe I just wrote that.)
We tend to communicate from the head and not so much from the heart. What’s on our hearts is often filtered by our heads. That’s not a great thing, but think about it. For you ladies, your thoughts are often filtered by you hearts.
I am not sure why God made us with these differences. I am not a fan of all the differences, but I am enough of a fan of some of the differences, that I will live with the others.
Guys if I get any hints on how to understand women, don’t expect to see them in this blog. I will finally write that book I’ve been thinking about and become unbelievably rich.
Be blessed.
Nick
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